I was twenty-four and officially forever-single. Never had a boyfriend, never had a suitor, and never been kissed. Although surrounded by beautiful, smart and quality men, it´s as if I didn´t exist to them. At least not in a way that I had hoped to be seen. I was either a colleague, a friend, a leader, or a competitor. Nothing more.
Some women started mocking and bullying me for my lack of love life. They made me feel less than and unattractive for not having a man. Despite my impressive professional accomplishments as a high-school Maths teacher and debate trainer in an international setting, having some people wickedly point out my non-existing love life cut to the core of my insecurities.
"What is SO wrong with me that NO man ever pursued me?”
To be in several failed relationships is one thing. But to be never in a relationship when you´re almost in your middle twenties is another thing. It makes you feel utterly undesirable.
I decided to change it.
So I set out to learn everything that I could about attracting men, dating, love and relationship. I read many books on these topics more than I could ever count. I read many newsletters from many love experts.
I wanted to know more about me, why I behaved that way? I wanted to know more about people, why they behaved that way towards me? I wanted to understand more about men, how do they think?
As an educator, I had a rich background in psychology. But because of my quest to understand the science and art of love, I became even more interested in psychology. So I spent all my free time reading and researching. I did this for about two years. My goal was to change the course of my non-existing love life.
The result? A massive transformation.
I understood why men hardly approached me. It´s not that I wasn´t attractive, but it´s a combination of factors — my being a boss lady (literally bossy), my inability to be vulnerable, my lack of feminine energy, my low self-confidence in terms of my appearance, my lack of flirting skills, and my limiting beliefs when it came to love.
That was a lot to work on!
I realized that I had to heal all my past wounds. I had to be forgiving of myself and of people who wronged me.
I had to learn to love myself first before any man could truly love me.
I had to see the beautiful woman that I am. I learned to believe that I am beautiful. It´s only when I know and believe that I am beautiful would men see me as beautiful. It´s only when I learn to communicate my being high value would men see me as a quality, high value woman.
But most importantly, I had to learn to be happy with myself even before I found my man.
The transformation that was happening inside me immediately radiated to the outside. I started attracting quality men — men who were smart, healthy, professionally accomplished and ready to commit.
Shortly thereafter I met “the One”. He was so enamored and captivated by my beauty and personality. A year later, we got engaged.
I married a handsome, tall and attractive man with sculpted muscles (he´s a dancer and basketball player) who´s also very loving, a true gentleman, professionally + financially accomplished, and most importantly, who´s head-over-heels in love with me! And the best part? All my bullies were able to witness my journey.
It´s been eleven years now since I met my husband, and nine years since we said “I do”, and we´re still as in love as ever.
God had blessed me with a wonderful husband and a gorgeous baby boy. A small but happy family of my own.
Shortly after our wedding I retired from teaching and devoted my time to learning more about love, dating and relationship. I became a Certified Dating Coach.
My mission for the remainder of my life is to help single women, whose absolute dream is to find love, achieve their dream. Because finding love is the best thing that ever happened to me, yet one that took me so long to figure out.